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Dangerously, it is with this lens that many come to understand their interest or “preference” for a particular race.For example, a man who seeks an Asian female partner because he believes in stereotypes of Asian domesticity and submissiveness is playing into these stereotypes, and thus fetishizing his partner.Such unions are most supported in the Western region of the United States, where 22 percent of new marriages are interracial.

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With Thanksgiving just around the corner, I cannot help but dwell on who might be coming to dinner.

Last holiday season gave me plenty of food for thought on this all too familiar and often uncomfortable racially-tinged question.

A human is not merely a stereotype or a fetish and should not be seen or used in that way, especially not in a romantic partnership. Opinions of interracial unions are changing, but not quickly enough everywhere.

Interracial marriage was only recently decriminalized in 1967 (Loving v. Before that date, it was actually illegal to marry outside of your race in the United States of America.

Another example of fetishization was egregiously displayed by Khloe Kardashian’s tweet about her Black husband’s “big hands,” her reveal of his penis size and more recently her statement that the Kardashians “only like Black cock.” And then there’s Jean-Paul Goude — the photographer behind the now infamous magazine cover of Kim Kardashian — who famously used his Black then-girlfriend, Grace Jones, to recreate hypersexualized/stereotyped imagery of Black women.

A relationship should be built on mutual respect of one another’s human dignity.

As I explained above, many can maintain prejudiced and even racist ideas while also having relationships with people of other races.

These attitudes have been ingrained by a White supremacist/patriarchal society that has created a system of White normalization (i.e. The only way they can be overcome and dispelled are if they are confronted and challenged, not denied or avoided. Be prepared to encounter ignorance, even from your own family and close friends.

So, if you’re someone who believes we live in a post-racial society because we have a Black president, you probably won’t be the best long-term partner for a person of color. Your partner is not the “exception to the rule.” The belief that men of color are “thugs” and thus somehow unworthy of white respect is a widespread belief that is often exploited by the media and politics.

This creates bias towards Black and other minority men — a “rule” of inferiority — that is often deeply internalized by non-minorities.

I recently got into a interesting conversation with a few White women I know, who happen to date Black or minority men, and it really highlighted a need to explore the complexities of such unions in greater depth.

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